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Recently I was telling my friend that marriage is a safe hiding place. More so when it was your refuge. It can still be comfortable even when you’re being abused, because in your head, the bigger part of your life is being taken care of; it’s your city of refuge and identifier. Do I need … Read more

I am mentally unstable to mother my children.. I am struggling to mother my children .. I am feeling inadequate .. I feel like am not a good mother to my children .. I want to take them back to their dad.. I also want to go back to him…. These are the sentiments I … Read more

Financial instability is one of the reasons why victims of domestic violence fail to leave their marriages. Its a tough place to be in. This was my second month into separation, October 2020. Fruits and vegetable deliveries was my Weekend hustle I had started it same year in June. This same hustle triggered the physical … Read more

Sometimes back the word “Forgiveness” was such a bad trigger. I’d hear it and change routes or even give my version and stand by it. And overtime my version of forgiveness has changed depending on the nature of how I/ they acted, what I/they said and even what I/ they didn’t do. Am happy that … Read more

Most of my life decisions have been influenced by maternal or paternal issues. And because today is Father’s Day, Lemmie share on the effects of my pursuit of a father. At the age of 9, I lost my father through a short illness that didn’t go beyond two weeks. And I believe my pursuit of … Read more

After writing on grief after Separation/divorce, one of my favorite brothers got worried and called to check if am OK and then he asks “why do you write like that..?” 🤔… I shared raw grief because when interacting with victims & survivors of domestic violence, I still hear a lot of pain attached to the … Read more

I just thought about grief after divorce/separation today. Two days ago, I asked my friend to talk to some people on my behalf because I just didn’t feel like talking. Later in the evening I whispered in her inbox  “I dug out files sent to my ex-husband and am so sad and angry, I can’t … Read more

My name is Emily Omondi. A member of the body of Christ. A woman who went through abuse and has been creating awareness on matters domestic violence by sharing my experiences and lessons learnt. As I write this am a submitted representative of the church. I have been reading different rants/opinions/ advice/ mockeries…..and all that has … Read more

I have been skirting around this subject; “counseling the couple who’ve gone through abuse” To a huge extent it scares me but again is there comfort in caressing fear? Am still so disturbed by the sudden deaths happening in homes with couples prior to their deaths displaying such extensive love worth being jealous of!  Aren’t these … Read more

I have to confess, writing about domestic violence as a Christian is the most daring thing I’ve done in my life. Sometimes I hung up my boots but again the master sends me back to the fields and so I’ll tarry some more and wade through the repercussions. The story of the late Mueni suspected … Read more