Month: September 2022

I have tasted the shame of bed wetting. I have tasted the shame of being infested with jiggers. I have tasted the Shame of poverty/lack/Scarcity. I have tasted the shame of birthing out of wedlock. I have experienced shame…… But then there’s the shame of domestic abuse. And especially on a Christian woman. And so … Read more

“Jesus was sleeping at the back of the boat with his head on a cushion. The disciples woke him up, shouting, “Teacher, don’t you care that we’re going to drown?” Mark 4:38 So yesterday as one of our leaders in ‘Holistic Healing Well-Kenya’ shared on the above scripture, I couldn’t help but ponder on what … Read more

I remember 3 days in a week from 2017 to 2019; I would come home at 10pm and wake up the children just to check if they’re ok. I was doing ‘gumbaru’. As if waking them up at that time is not insulting enough I would want them to speak to me and tell me … Read more

But who can adorn a red pair of long trouser, throw in some whites, a dash of brown and strike a pose with a sportsman cigar if not my father. You checked his shoes? And that cap….I need to enquire. Maybe this is how they tesad those days, they’d say things like “look imeweza” of … Read more

I would have wanted to write about this later in life, but what I read from Caroline Kangogo’s death have left me with no option. I grasp things slowly; apologies for bringing this up later after you’re almost forgetting her. In this case I will write about the MARRIAGE institution. Let’s talk as individuals; society … Read more

One Wednesday evening, April 2019, I walked into All Saints Cathedral. The Alabastron Network Trust had an open day then. A dear friend had suggested I should attend their renewing self programme, she’s very blunt and the choice was mine to make. So this evening I crept in, smoothed nothing off my derriere and slumped … Read more

                                                                    Often than not we’ve found ourselves propagating, embracing, worshipping, enabling and providing a healthy environment for abuse to thrive. Sometimes out of ignorance, sometimes because it’s what we’ve been conditioned to since time immemorial and sometimes we just don’t give a damn. I was an enabler too, because I lacked knowledge. But when I … Read more

Having drawn from the wells of older women, I learnt that women are the gatekeepers. Gate keepers of their lives. Gate keepers of their homes. Gate keepers of the society. They tend to visualize earlier before it’s visible for mass. Hence, their spiritual health is key to their mandate. Domestic abuse is one of the … Read more

So today, I have pushed myself to write on the above subject. Today I might be sketchy and jumpy but in future I will have the courage be clearer. In the occurrence of domestic violence, children are the forgotten lot. Airtime is accorded to the two adults whilst the little humans who’re screaming to be … Read more

When you experience a spousal abuse in a church setting, it is confusing, you’re torn between answered prayers and the abuse and chances are that you’ll stick on, pray some more and be gracious some more… The day is 16th June 2019, just like today, but it was a Sunday. We walked into church looking … Read more