Category: Blogs
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THE CHURCH STRUGGLES FOR THE DIVORCED/SEPARATED (Part 1)
April this year as I prayed, I heard “Pray for the church” I tried opening my mouth to say something but I couldn’t instead I broke down and cried bitterly, I felt so much pain, I felt such a deep wound in my heart. That night I wept, I didn’t know I had carried so […]
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My Fear of Abandonment
I’ve been running away from this topic and it keeps pursuing me, so am in a halt and facing it right in the eye😊 In all my relationships, eeh kwani how many have they been! OK even with my girlfriends I have been extremely clingy and attached, like I attach deeeeeeply. I can pimia pimia […]
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DEMOLISHING THE FAMILIAR IDENTITY
Recently I was telling my friend that marriage is a safe hiding place. More so when it was your refuge. It can still be comfortable even when you’re being abused, because in your head, the bigger part of your life is being taken care of; it’s your city of refuge and identifier. Do I need […]
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Mental Instability for Moms Affected by Domestic Violence
I am mentally unstable to mother my children.. I am struggling to mother my children .. I am feeling inadequate .. I feel like am not a good mother to my children .. I want to take them back to their dad.. I also want to go back to him…. These are the sentiments I […]
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Financial instability and victims of domestic violence.
Financial instability is one of the reasons why victims of domestic violence fail to leave their marriages. Its a tough place to be in. This was my second month into separation, October 2020. Fruits and vegetable deliveries was my Weekend hustle I had started it same year in June. This same hustle triggered the physical […]
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Forgive YOU
Sometimes back the word “Forgiveness” was such a bad trigger. I’d hear it and change routes or even give my version and stand by it. And overtime my version of forgiveness has changed depending on the nature of how I/ they acted, what I/they said and even what I/ they didn’t do. Am happy that […]
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My relationship with the noun “Father”
Most of my life decisions have been influenced by maternal or paternal issues. And because today is Father’s Day, Lemmie share on the effects of my pursuit of a father. At the age of 9, I lost my father through a short illness that didn’t go beyond two weeks. And I believe my pursuit of […]
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Grief After Separation and Divorce (Part 2)
After writing on grief after Separation/divorce, one of my favorite brothers got worried and called to check if am OK and then he asks “why do you write like that..?” 🤔… I shared raw grief because when interacting with victims & survivors of domestic violence, I still hear a lot of pain attached to the […]
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Grief After Separation and Divorce (Part 1)
I just thought about grief after divorce/separation today. Two days ago, I asked my friend to talk to some people on my behalf because I just didn’t feel like talking. Later in the evening I whispered in her inbox “I dug out files sent to my ex-husband and am so sad and angry, I can’t […]
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Domestic Violence and The Church
My name is Emily Omondi. A member of the body of Christ. A woman who went through abuse and has been creating awareness on matters domestic violence by sharing my experiences and lessons learnt. As I write this am a submitted representative of the church. I have been reading different rants/opinions/ advice/ mockeries…..and all that has […]