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For victims of abuse who are in denial, excusing abuse can be as simple as “I am praying for my husband to be born again, he sleeps with other women because he doesn’t know better….. Victim: You know my husband beats me up because he’s not born again. He’s not walking in light so that’s … Read more

In the journey of familiarising myself with Him as God, (relating to Him as God,) by design He slipped in God the Father card. I won’t say I liked it. I hadn’t paid much attention or even loved conversations on God being the father till I joined a mission school @ www.thefarm.academy 3 months ago.  … Read more

Most Individuals that have somehow not seen the beauty and glamour of December 2022 together as married couples will somehow find themselves in the reconciliation tables before the year bows. Maybe the family wants them reconciled… Maybe one party wants reconciliation… Maybe they both want to reconcile in their own ways… Maybe some church leaders … Read more

For quite a while I have been asked to even share on how I contributed to the breaking of my marriage. Quite a huge task right? The period of separation even before divorce is a good  time for self reflection, engaging in  introspection,  touching, feeling and calling out one’s contribution towards a broken marriage. Pointing … Read more

There’s always a relief after leaving an abusive relationship. One somehow settles and basks in the tranquility of a free anxiety atmosphere. In oblivion of the victim the abuser is scheming and scheming and scheming. An abuser is that being who’ll tell everyone that they want you so much but they have no morsel of … Read more

So someone argued “it is you the divorcees/separated who wants to be  treated with extra niceness and attention and you make it hard for us to love you” Am not refuting this statement, neither am I banking it because I would say, there’s half truth in it. It is extremely difficult to deal with unhealed … Read more

April this year as I prayed, I heard “Pray for the church” I tried opening my mouth to say something but I couldn’t instead I broke down and cried bitterly, I felt so much pain, I felt such a deep wound in my heart. That night I wept, I didn’t know I had carried so … Read more

I’ve been running away from this topic and it keeps pursuing me, so am in a halt and facing it right in the eye😊 In all my relationships,  eeh kwani how many have they been! OK even with my girlfriends I have been extremely clingy and attached, like I attach deeeeeeply. I can pimia pimia … Read more

Recently I was telling my friend that marriage is a safe hiding place. More so when it was your refuge. It can still be comfortable even when you’re being abused, because in your head, the bigger part of your life is being taken care of; it’s your city of refuge and identifier. Do I need … Read more

I am mentally unstable to mother my children.. I am struggling to mother my children .. I am feeling inadequate .. I feel like am not a good mother to my children .. I want to take them back to their dad.. I also want to go back to him…. These are the sentiments I … Read more