Category: Blogs
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Self Doubt
I had a very beautiful weekend. At around 6am on Monday Vivi sends me a text “Em, how are you?” And I say “I am free I feel uncaged”. Come 8am till 10am I had already allowed myself to sip in toxins and also poured out toxins, am now taking breaks to visit the washroom…
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God Wants You Just Like That
There are hurts and pains unless you touch them you won’t feel them. Sometimes you can touch them but don’t feel them because you’ve also blocked that part, or maybe you’re immune to its venom. This reminds me about the Lion Guard Series where Bonga, his name was that right? at my age I do…
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The Dangers of “Praying for a spouse to be born again”
I write in the voice of a woman and not a man. There are some of us who just got married maybe there was a pregnancy, we went visiting tasting the forbidden things outside marriage and a thought crossed our minds ati what if we taste taste yaani onja onja for just 3 days, then…
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The Aftermath of Domestic Violence on Children
Sometimes last year in November as we had our usual intimate moments on a Sunday morning, my son pressed my hand a little firmer and told me “Mummy that night of the fight, kama singeenda kuita mama xxxx, (Mummy the night of the fight, if I wouldn’t have gone to call mum xxxx)you’d still be…
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Hiding Behind Religion To Excuse Abuse
For victims of abuse who are in denial, excusing abuse can be as simple as “I am praying for my husband to be born again, he sleeps with other women because he doesn’t know better….. Victim: You know my husband beats me up because he’s not born again. He’s not walking in light so that’s…
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God The Father
In the journey of familiarising myself with Him as God, (relating to Him as God,) by design He slipped in God the Father card. I won’t say I liked it. I hadn’t paid much attention or even loved conversations on God being the father till I joined a mission school @ www.thefarm.academy 3 months ago. …
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Counselling the victims of domestic violence together with their perpetrators
Most Individuals that have somehow not seen the beauty and glamour of December 2022 together as married couples will somehow find themselves in the reconciliation tables before the year bows. Maybe the family wants them reconciled… Maybe one party wants reconciliation… Maybe they both want to reconcile in their own ways… Maybe some church leaders…
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MY CONTRIBUTION INTO THE FAILING OF MY MARRIAGE
For quite a while I have been asked to even share on how I contributed to the breaking of my marriage. Quite a huge task right? The period of separation even before divorce is a good time for self reflection, engaging in introspection, touching, feeling and calling out one’s contribution towards a broken marriage. Pointing…
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Abuse doesn’t end when the victim leaves the abuser
There’s always a relief after leaving an abusive relationship. One somehow settles and basks in the tranquility of a free anxiety atmosphere. In oblivion of the victim the abuser is scheming and scheming and scheming. An abuser is that being who’ll tell everyone that they want you so much but they have no morsel of…
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THE CHURCH STRUGGLES FOR THE DIVORCED/SEPARATED (Part 2)
So someone argued “it is you the divorcees/separated who wants to be treated with extra niceness and attention and you make it hard for us to love you” Am not refuting this statement, neither am I banking it because I would say, there’s half truth in it. It is extremely difficult to deal with unhealed…