Healing From Life's Dysfunctions And Traumas
I wouldn’t jump for a YES or a NO but ask which reconciliation is top-priority. Last year, at the Global School Of Missions – The Farm, I learnt that misplaced spiritual position results in misplaced relationships. At the time, I battled with that thought because shifting blame is always safer or rather being a victim … Read more
Few months ago a reader challenged me to write this from a christian perspective. According to him I have written so much on separation/divorce and intimate partner violence a lot that it seems I am against forgiveness and reconciliation. So I write in obedience, I pray flesh doesn’t own the ink. For them that live … Read more
Am also not ready for a conversation around this subject. But I found myself talking about it some months ago at the Holistic Healing Well event, yet again it scares me. It mostly scares victims of this kind of rape to share of it because marital and rape can’t marry in the eyes of the … Read more
I am a first born daughter and sometimes I don’t like it. No, a lot of times I don’t. I stopped priding myself with ooh am a second parent to my siblings etc. nonsense, ok my apologies it’s a good thing. Let’s talk about shame. The shame of getting a child out of wedlock as … Read more
There are things that no one will teach a mother who’s just gone through a separation or a divorce. Because this is a life terrain that has a bitter taste in our mouths. You can’t have a discourse of preparedness just in case divorce happens. So we learn in the process. As the adults bang … Read more
Till now I can’t tell how I feel about the lady who ended the life of her own child and consumed its contents. It happened months ago. My mental wellness hasn’t allowed me to view the video, reading it is horrifying enough. Separation and divorce is not the most catastrophic happening on the face of … Read more
Some of us who’ve had a series of healing to do may find it difficult to forgive ourselves for what we consider and brand as failures of 2023. Convincing ourselves that what we brand failures are pick up points and roads to redirection is such work with intense assurance and convictions. We need to just … Read more
In most cases there’s no rule for healing. But then again we can’t center it on us because we have to coexist with others. We rub on the society it rubs on us We rub on family they rub on us We rub on friends they rub on us We rub on religion it rubs … Read more
Amidst my cheekiness here and there someone who’s as silly as I am, mentioned pregnancy. In the jist of silliness I talk without thinking sometimes, I blurted “I’m not an athlete but with the sight of pregnancy even my scent won’t be felt.” So when I was with myself I sat ruminating over my words. … Read more
Every survivor of domestic abuse – emotional, spiritual, physical, financial, sexual… struggles to heal from other traumas gathered apart from the abuse itself. Mine have been; Cooking/kitchen/food – Am in a better space Gym – I scroll very fast when I see a picture of a gym Calm bornagain men 😊 – I sit at … Read more