WHY ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?
There is this picture of a young lady with all her belongings on her head going to get married. It reminds me of a scenario I was in 9 years ago. It’s nostalgic or is it a disturbia! My childhood friend Akinyi is carrying a huge Nigerian bag, she jumps over a pool of water […]
IT’S OKAY TO RECEIVE
“You didn’t have to trouble yourself” “Don’t worry I’m ok” “I can handle it on my own” “I didn’t want to trouble you? “You’ve done enough” “Niko poa, worry not” “It’s nothing out of space” “You didn’t have to go through that for me” “Am cool without it, it ain’t a necessity, but thank you” […]
From early 2019 I developed an interest in mental health for myself. I would encounter the words “lower your expectations” displayed on literatures and spoken by those who knew its meaning. Well, I brushed it off as nonsense, there’s no way a Kenyan sister, brother, father, mother, daughter or son gonna expect nothing from their […]
Cover them and shut up!
So this morning my daughter decides not to give a damn and displays herself in such a state of “its up to you; what you do with this scene”. The brother notices and is already in a laughing spree, “Mummy ona Ella” The brother has such a laughter sandwiched with mockery and wit, the one […]
Back in high school I had a mathematics book nicely covered by a plastic wrap, underneath was a magazine. The latter had a nice drawing of a well-rounded lady with a huge round load on her head. But the mama was beautiful in every African aspect; I wonder how it got to be on this […]
THE COMFORT OF SILENCE IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS
It is noble and highly expected of humans to keep their shits together. Not wash their dirty linen in public and smile for the camera. Am reminded of the movie Madagascar, the leader of the penguins telling his troop, “just smile and wave, smile and wave” (input black American accent) So we learn to infuse […]
WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?
I confess I have been a prisoner to this statement for many years. I have not written for some time now as a result of the same statement, like I haven’t even journaled privately, it’s like this same statement became a being; such that it even holds my pen, it makes my hands tremble, my […]
“But he took me in with a child” (part 2)
In the happenstance that a woman having enrolled into the marriage institution because of various reasons but what holds water for her is “He is marrying me with a child or children”, then it’s a circumstantial marriage- her circumstance has contributed to her signing into the covenant of marriage. Due to the shame the society […]
But he took me in with a child…(Part 1)
I just saw a deformed face of a woman having been battered up by the man she called her husband, and she’s still willing to stay because of the above mentioned subject: He took me in with the children. It has pained my heart. Coming from a place where children born out of wedlock are […]
BUT YOU KNOW AM AN ORPHAN
In the recent times, I’ve come across the above statement or is it a lament, mostly from ladies stuck in marriages or situations that are more hurtful to them than being an orphan. I do not refute the fact that it’s painful to be an orphan more so when you come from a poor background. […]