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                                                                    Often than not we’ve found ourselves propagating, embracing, worshipping, enabling and providing a healthy environment for abuse to thrive. Sometimes out of ignorance, sometimes because it’s what we’ve been conditioned to since time immemorial and sometimes we just don’t give a damn. I was an enabler too, because I lacked knowledge. But when I … Read more

Having drawn from the wells of older women, I learnt that women are the gatekeepers. Gate keepers of their lives. Gate keepers of their homes. Gate keepers of the society. They tend to visualize earlier before it’s visible for mass. Hence, their spiritual health is key to their mandate. Domestic abuse is one of the … Read more

So today, I have pushed myself to write on the above subject. Today I might be sketchy and jumpy but in future I will have the courage be clearer. In the occurrence of domestic violence, children are the forgotten lot. Airtime is accorded to the two adults whilst the little humans who’re screaming to be … Read more

When you experience a spousal abuse in a church setting, it is confusing, you’re torn between answered prayers and the abuse and chances are that you’ll stick on, pray some more and be gracious some more… The day is 16th June 2019, just like today, but it was a Sunday. We walked into church looking … Read more

… Still on Hannah and Penninah story, I love the lessons am encountering in the story of these cowives, I wonder why Elkana married Peninah if he loved Hannah so much. Mbu “Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons! eeeh” The other house was full but with a morsel of love if any,Hannah’s … Read more

So Peninnah would taunt Hannah and make fun of her because the Lord had kept her from having children. Year after year it was the same—Peninnah would taunt Hannah as they went to the Tabernacle. Each time, Hannah would be reduced to tears and would not even eat. (1 Samuel 1:6-7 NLT) “Oh no, sir!” … Read more

I know you’re already thinking about Covid variant Omicron, or maybe Christmas and here I am entertaining thoughts of love. Yes that love that ukambani sun scorched out of Lilian and Alfred, I won’t use a title on the latter, love dishonors all titles. I digest matters slowly so it’s today that I thought of … Read more

I love a good warm weather that doesn’t inhibit my activities; one that doesn’t affect my mood in any way. But again there are different ways of dressing as the weather changes, maybe I fear changes, I should get used to the changing weather and the micro climates that have intruded the kinds of climates we learnt … Read more

There is this  picture of a young lady with all her belongings on her head going to get married.  It reminds me of a scenario I was in 9 years ago. It’s nostalgic or is it a disturbia! My childhood friend Akinyi is carrying a huge Nigerian bag, she jumps over a pool of water … Read more

“You didn’t have to trouble yourself” “Don’t worry I’m ok” “I can handle it on my own” “I didn’t want to trouble you? “You’ve done enough” “Niko poa, worry not” “It’s nothing out of space” “You didn’t have to go through that for me” “Am cool without it, it ain’t a necessity, but thank you” … Read more