Stripped Off

For quite a while I have been asked to even share on how I contributed to the breaking of my marriage. Quite a huge task right? The period of separation even before divorce is a good  time for self reflection, engaging in  introspection,  touching, feeling and calling out one’s contribution towards a broken marriage. Pointing […]

There’s always a relief after leaving an abusive relationship. One somehow settles and basks in the tranquility of a free anxiety atmosphere. In oblivion of the victim the abuser is scheming and scheming and scheming. An abuser is that being who’ll tell everyone that they want you so much but they have no morsel of […]

So someone argued “it is you the divorcees/separated who wants to be  treated with extra niceness and attention and you make it hard for us to love you” Am not refuting this statement, neither am I banking it because I would say, there’s half truth in it. It is extremely difficult to deal with unhealed […]

April this year as I prayed, I heard “Pray for the church” I tried opening my mouth to say something but I couldn’t instead I broke down and cried bitterly, I felt so much pain, I felt such a deep wound in my heart. That night I wept, I didn’t know I had carried so […]

I’ve been running away from this topic and it keeps pursuing me, so am in a halt and facing it right in the eye😊 In all my relationships,  eeh kwani how many have they been! OK even with my girlfriends I have been extremely clingy and attached, like I attach deeeeeeply. I can pimia pimia […]

Recently I was telling my friend that marriage is a safe hiding place. More so when it was your refuge. It can still be comfortable even when you’re being abused, because in your head, the bigger part of your life is being taken care of; it’s your city of refuge and identifier. Do I need […]

I am mentally unstable to mother my children.. I am struggling to mother my children .. I am feeling inadequate .. I feel like am not a good mother to my children .. I want to take them back to their dad.. I also want to go back to him…. These are the sentiments I […]

Financial instability is one of the reasons why victims of domestic violence fail to leave their marriages. Its a tough place to be in. This was my second month into separation, October 2020. Fruits and vegetable deliveries was my Weekend hustle I had started it same year in June. This same hustle triggered the physical […]

Sometimes back the word “Forgiveness” was such a bad trigger. I’d hear it and change routes or even give my version and stand by it. And overtime my version of forgiveness has changed depending on the nature of how I/ they acted, what I/they said and even what I/ they didn’t do. Am happy that […]

Most of my life decisions have been influenced by maternal or paternal issues. And because today is Father’s Day, Lemmie share on the effects of my pursuit of a father. At the age of 9, I lost my father through a short illness that didn’t go beyond two weeks. And I believe my pursuit of […]